A facebook friend posted a quote that I find to be very true: "Blood makes you related. Loyalty makes you family." My instant response? "I must not have a lot of family."
Yesterday, I was disappointed by a lot of people. Family, friends, a "love" interest. I keep a lot bottled inside because I hate conflict. I despise tension. Do you think they care if I'm disappointed in their lack of loyalty? I doubt it.
Loyalty is a value that I hold very highly. It pisses me off when I'm loyal to a person and I don't get it in return. I begin to withdraw and I slowly detach myself emotionally because I'm becoming apathetic. That's how any guy who is "talking" to me knows I'm losing interest. I withdraw. I'm not as excited to talk to them anymore. It may take me forever to return a text or a phone call. I may not ever pick up the phone for them anymore.
Loyalty is a mixture of honesty and reliability. I try to be honest as much as possible without the intent of hurting anyone. I believe I am extremely reliable and dependable. If you need me, if I can, I'll help you whether it's financial or you need someone to listen to you vent or to babysit someone or to drive you somewhere, etc. etc. I feel that my loyalty makes me an excellent partner, friend, relative, co-worker, whatever.
My fierce loyalty tends to get me constantly disappointed. Because I find it to be such a strong quality to possess, I usually expect it from others. Expectations breed disappointments so I really shouldn't expect anything but in my heart of hearts, I do. I believe in doing unto others the way I want them to do unto me so when I don't get it reciprocated, it hurts like hell. I always wonder WHY. WHY can't I call on them the way they can call on me? WHY can't they be there for me when I need someone the way I am there for them?
I'm tired. I'm tired of being a doormat. I'm tired of being available and convenient. I'm tired of being at everyone's beck and call. While I have outgrown the "please everyone" stage, I do value certain relationships and I am loyal to those. I just hate that they don't feel the same. So do I just say, "F*** 'em?" No. I can't. No matter how much I vent and complain and am disappointed, I just can't "let go" like that. That's probably why I am their doormat. (I love how I psychoanalyze myself. lol). What I can do is be less available. I can prove my loyalty to those who will not only appreciate it, but will also return the loyalty to me. Trust me, a person's loyalty is something that I treasure and it won't be wasted on me.
The moral of this story? Loyalty will get you pretty much anywhere with me. Take that how you want to. lol
Yesterday, I was disappointed by a lot of people. Family, friends, a "love" interest. I keep a lot bottled inside because I hate conflict. I despise tension. Do you think they care if I'm disappointed in their lack of loyalty? I doubt it.
Loyalty is a value that I hold very highly. It pisses me off when I'm loyal to a person and I don't get it in return. I begin to withdraw and I slowly detach myself emotionally because I'm becoming apathetic. That's how any guy who is "talking" to me knows I'm losing interest. I withdraw. I'm not as excited to talk to them anymore. It may take me forever to return a text or a phone call. I may not ever pick up the phone for them anymore.
Loyalty is a mixture of honesty and reliability. I try to be honest as much as possible without the intent of hurting anyone. I believe I am extremely reliable and dependable. If you need me, if I can, I'll help you whether it's financial or you need someone to listen to you vent or to babysit someone or to drive you somewhere, etc. etc. I feel that my loyalty makes me an excellent partner, friend, relative, co-worker, whatever.
My fierce loyalty tends to get me constantly disappointed. Because I find it to be such a strong quality to possess, I usually expect it from others. Expectations breed disappointments so I really shouldn't expect anything but in my heart of hearts, I do. I believe in doing unto others the way I want them to do unto me so when I don't get it reciprocated, it hurts like hell. I always wonder WHY. WHY can't I call on them the way they can call on me? WHY can't they be there for me when I need someone the way I am there for them?
I'm tired. I'm tired of being a doormat. I'm tired of being available and convenient. I'm tired of being at everyone's beck and call. While I have outgrown the "please everyone" stage, I do value certain relationships and I am loyal to those. I just hate that they don't feel the same. So do I just say, "F*** 'em?" No. I can't. No matter how much I vent and complain and am disappointed, I just can't "let go" like that. That's probably why I am their doormat. (I love how I psychoanalyze myself. lol). What I can do is be less available. I can prove my loyalty to those who will not only appreciate it, but will also return the loyalty to me. Trust me, a person's loyalty is something that I treasure and it won't be wasted on me.
The moral of this story? Loyalty will get you pretty much anywhere with me. Take that how you want to. lol
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