Saturday, July 4, 2015

Homosexuality

June 26, 2015 was a huge day in history...and the day I realized just how much people truly hated homosexuals and homosexuality. On this day, many people became "religious," quoting Bible scriptures that I'm sure they found via Google...
I am not a homosexual. I think the female body is a thing of beauty but I'm not sexually attracted to it. I am a Christian. I don't attend church the way I used to but I do believe in God, Jesus, and I do my best to exercise faith. I am a Black woman. I come from a race that has been oppressed for centuries...and as early as about 50 years ago. My mother is older than 50 (but looks my age!), which means she was born in an era where Blacks weren't considered equal. My point? I SUPPORT SAME-SEX MARRIAGES.

I have a hard time understanding those that are against homosexuals having the same rights as heterosexuals. While I try my best to understand their point of view and accept differences of opinion, I can't bring myself to believe that so many people have a problem with certain human beings having the same rights as themselves. ESPECIALLY if those people are part of the minority.

As a Black woman, there are moments when I felt like I didn't "belong." When I first started college, I gravitated to what I knew: other Black females. I hung out with them for a week. Went to lunch with them. But I didn't "fit." The conversations were not of interest to me and really, we had nothing in common except the color of our skin. I then met a young woman, who was White, and we instantly clicked and are still friends to this day. Once I started hanging out with her, I met other White females that I either shared similar interests with or they were just cool to hang around. Those same Black girls made fun of me, stating that I wanted to be "White" and looked down their noses at me like I was filled with self-hate and it smelled like skunk shit.

I once lived with a friend's family after I graduated college. They were a fine family. Close-knit and kind. I was so appreciative of the opportunity they provided for me by allowing me to live with them. They were White. I come from a different background than my friend and there were times when the family would go out and I felt my Black skin made me stand out. I felt people were staring at me like I was the family pet. My friend's family, especially her mother, never made me feel like I didn't belong. It was some insecurity with being the only Black face in a sea of White.

With all that being said, how could I possibly say that homosexuals don't deserve the same rights as people like myself? With my experiences, how could I possibly say that they "don't belong?" With minorities, how could they, a people that come from oppression, possibly have the audacity to say that homosexuals aren't equal and shouldn't be free to marry who they choose?

Aaaahhh...because the BIBLE speaks against it! The problem isn't with the Bible...the problem is the people spitting out scriptures and verses to justify their hatred and ignorance. You know...the same way slavemasters did towards slaves...the way racist Governor George Wallace did in his 1963 Inaugural Address...the way US Senator Theodore Bilbo (and other members of the Ku Klux Klan) did...so on and so forth. People tend to hide behind the Bible and pick and choose a verse here and a verse there to okay their lifestyle.

The thing is, if you want to get "religious," we ALL were born into sin and NONE of us are perfect. I see married men who cheat on their wives condemning homosexual marriage. I see women on their 3rd, 4th, or 5th husbands condemning homosexual marriage. I see sidepieces, people in interracial relationships, parents with children out of wedlock, people with criminal history, etc. etc. condemning homosexual marriage. These people quote Leviticus but in the same breath state that the New Testament is what we as Christians should follow. We are in no position to judge, yet we (and I use "we" in a generalized way) are harshly judging HUMAN BEINGS for their "lifestyle." I don't see homosexual people judging heterosexual people and their 50% divorce rate.
You don't have to agree with homosexuality. You don't have to understand it. But when I hear people saying that they can "live amongst us" but they can't "have our same rights" and "If my son/daughter came home, I would practically disown them because homosexuality is a sin," my brain can't help but be crushed by the amount of ignorance and stupidity some people possess. These same people live in sin daily but homosexuality is THE sin that can't be tolerated by any means. *Rolls eyes*

My best friend is gay and got married on June 30 to a man who he says treats him the way he deserves and he is happy. Guess what? I'm happy for him. Should he not have the love from another simply because he loves men? There are heterosexual people (single AND taken) that would LOVE the relationship that my best friend has with his husband.

As awesome, smart, good-hearted, sweet, sarcastic, kind, thoughtful, empathetic, and sympathetic as I am towards others, would you disown me if I did say I was gay? Would I be less of a mother because of it? Would I be less of a person because of it? Would I be allowed to go to your church with my lover and pray to and praise God like you?

And Christians wonder why people choose to steer clear of the church.

My Poem of Support



Where The Hell You Been?

I have been so occupied with life that I neglected my blog. I want to get back into writing it so here is my update. 

WORK: I am still with the State of Texas as a CPS caseworker. I LOVE my career and I don't see myself doing anything else. It means so much that I can actually ACT on positively affecting families and keeping children safe instead of just TALKING about it. It's a job that helps me make a difference and that's what I've always been about. 

HOME: I've been in my home for almost 2 years now. I just recently got cable (lol) since my apartment complex doesn't allow for satellite dishes. Which, by the way, I think is STUPID. Anyway, I have it now so I'm not reduced to watching DVDs all day! I also got wifi for the very first time. Isn't that sad? Now that I have wifi, I'm not really sure why it took me so long to get it. 

RELATIONSHIP: I am in a relationship! We have mutual friends and started talking on Facebook. It is a long distance relationship. We have been dating since September 2014. What I love about our relationship is that he makes me feel secure and loved. I have no doubts or questions about his loyalty to me...something I haven't felt since dating my very first boyfriend. Due to the distance, we have to work very hard to keep our relationship going and so far, I believe we're doing a great job. He makes me smile, he makes me feel beautiful, he compliments me, he's consistent, he listens to me (although I swear he has ADD sometimes lol) and he always makes me feel important. He's definitely a keeper. Although the package isn't what people expected me to end up with, I'm glad that I can make up my own mind, or I would have missed out on a great guy. I let him meet my daughter in February 2015 and watched how he interacted with her like a hawk. Based upon their meeting, I determined that my family could meet him. They really like him. :)

THE OFFSPRING: My kiddo recently made 8 years old. She's still an amazing kid with a huge personality and a great sense of humor. She makes me so proud. She's a Level 2 Brown Belt in Tae Kwon Do and just finished playing soccer. I got her a betta fish and she has been really good with it. She's so smart and funny with a huge heart of gold. She enjoys writing poems (or as she calls them, "peoms") and making homemade cards. Some of her favorite shows on TV are Teen Titans and Full House. She's into girly things like lip gloss and nail polish. God help me. 

THE OFFSPRING'S PATERNAL UNIT: He lives in Nebraska and stopped talking to his kiddo because he got mad at me. When he gets mad at me, he takes it out on the offspring by not talking to her, either. The only reason why I know he's alive is because I get child support payments in my bank account. That's cool. They go into her bank account and with his help, I got her Christmas presents and paid for her birthday party. So thanks, Office of the Attorney General!

MY BEST FRIEND: My best friend recently got married in New York. I really wish I could have been there but unfortunately, I wasn't able to. I am super happy for him. And yes. He's a gay man married to a gay man and he is happy!

RACHEL DOLEZAL: LMFAO

GAY MARRIAGE AND CHRISTIANITY: I have pretty strong views regarding this. This may have to be a whole 'nother blog post. Just know that as a Christian myself, I feel that many Christians are hypocritical regarding gay marriage and as a Christian, I support gay marriage simply because I believe in equal human rights for all. 

CHURCH FIRES: Black people just can't get a break, even if we're in the House of the Lord minding our own damn business. Our country is so backwards that sometimes, it makes me ashamed to be an American. Sometimes. 

CHARLESTON: What an unfortunate situation. Are Black people the prey from whom White America feeds?

Glad to have caught you up. I miss writing here. I hope you miss me, too.  I did have a birthday on July 1. I accept late birthday wishes lol.